Dear Adult Allies,

As part of our ten-year anniversary, iNSIDEoUT is hosting its Second Annual Adult Ally Appreciation Brunch on October 10 from 12-3pm at the Pinhook in Durham (117 W. Main St.). We’ll serve homemade brunch and celebrate with local music, including performances by the Ukelele Orchestra and more. Brunch is free and all are welcome to attend! We are trying to raise $5,000 in honor of this momentous occasion! We hope you will join us.

I helped co-found Insideout in 2005 as a first-year college student because I wanted LGBTQ high school students to have the resources and support networks that I did not have growing up in Tarboro, NC. It was unfathomable to me at the time that our program would expand to include a permanent space, adult staff, and a group for middle school aged youth, and that we would be here 10 years later having networked and impacted thousands of young people in dozens of high schools and middle schools. I am very proud to see youth at younger and younger ages standing up to bullying and transforming their schools and their communities. Youth are their own best advocates, and for a decade the unique guiding philosophy of Insideout has been to provide youth with the tools and connections to set and pursue their own agenda. Youth are in charge of programming while adults provide resources and support to make it happen.

Queer adults and allies tend to agree that youth programming and support is the most important cause within the LGBTQ community. I am writing to invite you to support that cause in the most profound and effective way you can, by becoming an iNSIDEoUT sustainer at any level. You can become a sustainer by setting up a donation online at the paypal link below, and checking the box to make it a recurring donation. After serving as a mentor to the Insideout youth board for years, I have taken my commitment a step further and become a sustainer myself by setting up an automatic deduction of $10 from my bank account to go to Insideout once a month. $10 dollars per month is about the cost of a movie or a meal; by giving it to iNSIDEoUT, I am doing so much more than that. I know we have saved people’s lives. We have also made school more tolerable for hundreds of incredible teenagers. Insideout is 100 percent donor funded, and the best way to support Insideout and queer youth in North Carolina long-term is by becoming a sustainer. Please consider making any contribution; any amount will go a long way and assist us in reaching our $5000 goal, but sustainers help us better project our budgets and give our youth security knowing that their programming has a solid foundation. Our goal is to get 100 sustainers by the end of the 2016 school year. Will you be one of the top 100 supporters of LGBTQ youth in the Triangle for the coming school year?

While the public celebrates the legalization of same-sex marriage and Caitlyn Jenner’s coming out, queer and trans youth still struggle against increased rates of homelessness, domestic violence, suicide, depression, drug abuse, and sexual assault. According to the School Climate Survey from GLSEN, 85 percent of LGBT students report being harassed by peers and even adults at school. Thanks to youth-run programs like Insideout, there are now Gay-Straight/Queer-Straight Alliances (G/QSAs) in hundreds of high schools in North Carolina and beyond, and hundreds of young LGBTQ people have found friendship and sometimes life-saving support within our community. G/QSAs are vital to changing hearts and minds on the local level, which is why the Insideout board spent much of last year working with schools like Stanback Middle in Hillsborough to get their club up and running in the face of opposition from administrators. Insideout also continued its ten-year tradition of hosting annual activist and social events like Queernival and Queer Prom, which bring together hundreds of youth from all over the Triangle. They couldn’t have done it without the help of us, their adult allies.

Please consider pledging your support to help us reach our $5000 goal, and let others know about our organization and what we do.

Thank you for your continued support, and here’s to another ten years.

Robert Wells

To donate, please click this link

Or mail a check made out to “Insideout” to
1303 Clarendon St. B
Durham, NC 27705

10th Anniversary Adult Ally Brunch

ioWhen: Sat, October 10, 12pm – 3pm
Where: The Pinhook, 117 W Main St, Durham, NC 27701

We are saying thanks to all of our adult allies! Insideout enthusiastically invites you to our 10th Anniversary Adult Ally Brunch! Join us for homemade brunch and live, local music as we celebrate our amazing 10-year journey of queer youth activism, organizing, liberating, and merrymaking. Brunch is free and all are welcome to attend!

Help us build the foundation for the next ten years! We are raising $5000 to continue to provide space and resources for badass young LGBTQ people in NC to be themselves and come together to articulate and follow their dreams for a better world.

You must be 21+ to drink alcohol.

Suggested Donation:
$25-$100 for adults
$3 for youth


io will gather the morning of Pride 9/26 from 10am-12pm on East Campus across from Mad Hatter’s, march in the parade at noon and then have a flash mob! Come out and have a good time as well as interact with other members. Everyone is welcome to march with us! All schools, people, dogs, QSAs/GSAs, etc.

Call if you get lost or need help finding us: 919-923-7884

September 12 during hangout hours 4-6pm, we’re going to have a group lesson on the choreography for the flash mob. Join our email list or Facebook page for location details!
The flash mob will be happening on Saturday September 19th at 11am at the Durham Farmers market, and Saturday September 26th at Durham Pride Parade, and is part of out fundraising campaign for iNSIDEoUT’s 10 year anniversary. Our goal is to raise $5,000!

You can come to any or all of the above! Just learn the dance and jump in! If you’re not into dancing, we could still use your help. On the 12th we will also be making signs and flyers advertising our fundraising goal and we need people to make and distribute them!
The video with the choreography is linked below and I encourage you to check it out. See you Saturday!

Learn the flash mob routine:


Dates to Remember:

Saturday Sept 12: Hangout Hours to prepare for flashmob
Saturday Sept 19: First flash mob at the Durham Farmers Market 11am
Saturday Sept 26: Second flash mob at Pride!

And again, we need you even if you don’t feel like dancing!

Ello ello!

Hi everyone,

I’m Lexi and for this year I am the media coordinator for iNSIDEoUT this year. Look forward to new messages soon for the 2015-2016 year! We have a lot of things storming together from events, hope to see you soon!

Thank you for an amazing 2014-2015!

Alas, we are off for the summer, but we look forward to re-emerging at full-speed in the fall. In the meantime, please check out this amazing video from Queernival 2015. Thank you Tito for creating it! And please contact us with questions or if you’d like learn how to get more involved. insideoutamy[@] or 919-923-7884. Have a great summer!

Support the Ninth Annual Awards Banquet and Gaiety on 5/31 @ Noon!

Sunday, May 31, 2015
Duke Park
106 W. Knox St. Durham
Suggested Donation for Adults: $18-$180, Youth: $3

Click here to support the banquet today!

Mark your calendar: On May 31st, Insideout and Upsidedown will host our annual Banquet and Gaiety at Duke Park! Join us for light refreshments, live music and tons of fun as we honor the hard work youth have been doing to make their schools and communities a better place for all LGBTQ+ youth as well as our adult allies who make everything we do possible!

Queer Prom & Backwords

Hello! iNSIDEoUT has been hard at work and had a wonderfully successful Queernival with the rest of NC Queer Youth Power Coalition. We had a great time with some fantastic music, open mic, performances, and, of course, other booths to visit. queernival(Photo Credits to QORDS Twitter page.) Now, for some updates:

  • iNSIDEoUT’s Zine “Backwords” is now open for submissions. A zine, for those unfamiliar, is like a mini magazine, and ours features art, poetry, and prose from local queer youth. All submissions should be emailed to by May 10, 2015. Preferred format for photos is .jpg and for written work is Word or .jpg. One submission per person please!
  • The date of the 2015 Queer Prom has been announced! Queer Prom 2015: Pirates of the Queerribean will be from 7:00pm-10:30pm on May 15. Please check out the Facebook event at: Feel free to invite friends and other queer youth to the dance!
  • If you represent a local queer organization, feel free to give us a few resources to put in our new space! We’ve got a small resource basket and we would love if you’d like to share with us business cards and zines and whatnot.

Thank you so much for supporting us. I hope you have a wonderful day in which people use your correct pronouns and are otherwise generally kind to you. :)

Insideout & Upsidedown March Update


The youth and adult staff at Insideout and Upsidedown would like thank everyone who came out to our adult ally fundraiser in Durham last weekend! We raised over $700 to support upcoming events! Also a huge thank you to people who donated items to our new office, officially named the Rainbow Room. Read below for upcoming events and volunteer opportunities:

Queernival: A Southern Celebration of Youth Liberation
Sat. 3/28, Noon-5pm
Calvary United Methodist Church, 304 E Trinity Ave, Durham, NC 27701

Queernival is a Southern celebration of youth liberation where local GSAs/QSAs and youth nonprofits will host a day of fun games, food and performances to educate the community about issues that impact minority youth. All ages are welcome, and there will be a drag show and a bouncy house!

If you are an adult ally interested in volunteering for Queernival, please contact Dolores Chandler at

Outside the Lines Summer Program

We are approaching local businesses to help raise $6,000 to send 8 fabulous lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer, questioning, or allied (LGBTIQ-A) teenagers to the Smoky Mountains this summer for Outside the Lines, an adventure-filled week of hiking, canoeing, friendship, leadership, and activism. Our 2015 theme is transcending barriers; we will bring together youth from a variety of class, race, and other backgrounds, promoting cross-cultural connections and awareness. Participants will return to the Triangle ready to transform their schools and Gay-Straight Alliances into more inclusive, diverse communities, and to push back against North Carolina’s harmful legislative agenda from the front lines, together.

If you have any connections with local businesses that you would feel comfortable approaching on behalf of Insideout, please contact Robert Wells at to receive more information and further solicitation materials.

Insideout’s Inter-generational Decade Book
Planning and Outreach Meeting (light snacks provide)
Mon. 4/13 @ 5pm
Calvary United Methodist Church, 304 E Trinity Ave, Durham, NC 27701

In celebration of Insideout’s coming ten year anniversary in 2016, we are launching an “LGBTQ+ Activism Across the Decades” book project. Our goal is to showcase the hard work that brave young queer activists have done in NC over the past decade and honor the people who have enabled them to continue the tradition of progressive organizing in NC. We are seeking adult volunteers to collect as much content related to LGBTQ+ activism in NC as we can possibly find. Content will be divided into sections and will include profiles of every Gay-Straight Alliance in North Carolina, adult activist biographies and interviews, organizational and non-profit profiles, youth activist profiles (including Insideout alumni), Insideout archival material, and news articles and feature stories about amazing youth activism in NC. If you are interested in helping with research or have materials to donate, please email

Insideout/Upsidedown February Update


-Our weekend-long winter retreat, Fab-u-fest, went outstanding! We had a diverse crowd of about 30 youth including several middle school GSA leaders. Workshop topics included intersectionality, anti-racism, sexual health, self care and inter-generational organizing. Students walked away with a resource packet to help them better reach out to students with the most needs in their schools.

-The youth board has been running a workshop series during our weekend hangout hours on Saturdays. If you know youth who want to be kept abreast of our weekly events, please direct them to our youth mailing list on our website:

-The second annual Queernival will be happening at Calvary United Methodist Church in Durham on March 28, noon-5. Queernival is a Southern celebration of youth liberation where local GSAs/QSAs and youth nonprofits will host a day of fun games, food and performances to educate the community about issues that impact minority youth. All ages are welcome, and there will be a bouncy house!

-We now have our own office space! Calvary United Methodist Church in Durham has graciously donated a room in their building for our youth and staff to work and play. Right now the room is empty besides a few chairs and an awesome mural of a pony under a rainbow, so we have created a wishlist for donations. If you have any of the following items that you want to part with, please email

Insideout Office Wishlist:

Bing Bags
Storage Containers: plastic bins
Art Supplies
Desktop Computer
Nonperishable Snacks
Coupons for groceries

Upcoming Event and Projects for Adult Allies:

Adult Ally Bar Night
March 7th 9pm-until
The Bar
711 Rigsbee Avenue, Durham, NC 27701
$5 cover goes directly to iNSIDEoUT programming! Come support queer youth by making friends and dancing! 18+ to get in, 21+ to to drink.

Adult Volunteering General Interest Meeting

We will be having a general interest meeting to discuss specific opportunities available before our Adult Ally Bar Night on 3/7. Snacks will be provided. Here are the details:

The Bar in Durham
711 Rigsbee Avenue, Durham, NC 27701
Saturday, March 7, 2015
6-8pm Volunteer Meeting
Followed by set up for our fundraiser 8-9pm, then the event runs 9-until

Here are specific upcoming projects we will need help with in the next few months:

-Running an information table at the March 7th event
-Helping develop a business outreach plan
-Running an info table at the Durham Farmer’s Market and other promotional events
-Carpooling youth to events (which are usually on Saturday afternoons)
-Stuffing envelopes for our mailing to school counselors
-Stuffing invitations for our spring banquet
-Host Committee and Planning for Spring Award Banquet
-Professional graphic design for a new logo
-Hosting parties to raise funds for IO
-Referrals to healthcare professionals
-Cooking meals for youth events
-Legal advice